Starting with birth, eating solid food, graduating to a higher grade in school, and our first date, we pass through many, many transitions in our lives. If we've been adequately prepared and have reasonably good nerves, we navigate these changes with little effort, almost imperceptively.
Today I considered a personal change, one which would impact my love relationship in a small way. But my whole attitude toward changes which would affect us both ultimately could impact our relationship in major ways.
When couples first date, both are zealous to please the other person. This is good! It would be great if those feelings and decisions can last through marriage. Yet I've seen too many couples who, in effect, are married singles. Each does what he or she wants to do without regard for the other. What a pity! I certainly don't want to end up as a "married single!" What's the point of getting married at all then?
The wise husband and wife who want to keep their love alive and well will always consider, even ask what the other person prefers. And then he or she will do it! There will be very few times when a decision is of such magnitude or immediacy that there would not be time to consult. I truly think that marriage requires sacrifices, giving 100% of yourself, to the other person. Both parties have to do this for a successful marriage. Then it is as close to "heaven on earth" as a person can reach!
It was simple: I thought about getting my hair cut and permed. I thought I should just go ahead and make an appointment with my stylist and get it done. Then I thought, "He likes my hair this way, he likes it long." My next thought was, "I want SO to please him. I will not change my hair style."
We are dating, considering marriage this year. We both want our relationship to continue to be as good as it gets! We are very comfortable talking about anything and everything. What a great start we have!
Praise you, Lord God, for this wonderful, GIVING, man in my life. Please help us both continue this in our lives ahead. Help all people in love relationships GIVE to the other. The reward is IMMENSE!
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