Yesterday, one of the TV news shows was touting the statistics of declining numbers of American marriages and the benefits of marriage for women and men in our times. To be sure, it makes good economic sense to combine two households. But what stood out in my mind was that unmarried men LIVE 10 YEARS LESS that married men!! What an incredible difference!
As a TOTALLY independent woman for the last twenty years, and now in a wonderful, loving, exciting relationship with the man who is the love of my life, I am here to testify to you about INTERDEPENDENCE. This is a forging of bonds of love, a situation in which each one considers the needs of the other person FIRST, in all decisions.
Just recently have I become aware of our dependence on each other in day-to-day life. This has happened without our planning it. There has to be great love to reach this point in a relationship. There has to be implicit and total trust in the other one for love to develop. And for trust, there has to be honesty.
We are, my love and I, both very strong persons with extremely strong opinions. For most topics, we think alike. In some areas, we are 100% in opposition. Yet, we are willing to 'bend' our wishes and negotiate in all decisions.
When talking about Interdependence, we have to be careful to not include issues of domination. In some relationships, which could be abusive, one person must domineer the other one. In a few of these couples, the other person loves to be domineered. This is NOT interdependence.
In spite of the fact that my love and I have not been dating for months and months, we are so pleased to be together and need to be together, as much as possible. One reason for our success, in my opinion, is that we can talk about anything and everything. We have enjoyed Sunday afternoon rides in the Central Kentucky countryside, week after week. This gives us the chance to not be distracted by anything.
I highly encourage you to not be afraid of love! Don't fear losing your independence! Whatever you may lose in terms of making decisions on your own is gained a thousand-fold in the warm cocoon of knowing you are loved totally, FOR YOURSELF!
Interdependence is a pearl of great value, well worth going out of your way to seek it!
My Lord God, how can I thank You enough for the great gift of my Love, my Life, my All!
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