Love and Marriage is not for the faint of heart! It promises a lifetime of togetherness, companionship, support, and understanding, but there are many obstacles to this state of bliss, pitfalls, as it were, along the way. To maximize our chance for great success, we have to know ourselves and know what qualities we want in our mates, and also, those qualities which we will not tolerate, THE DEAL-BREAKERS. (Then, of course, we must steel ourselves, no matter how attractive our potential mate may be, to break off the relationship if certain "deal breakers" are present.
In very close relationships, there are many topics that need to be negotiated, in order to be compatible. We've blogged on "Negotiating Compatibility, #1: Sleep" on June 6, 2014, #2: Shopping, July 7, 2014, #3: Housework & Yardwork, August 7, 2014, #4: Money Matters, August 8, 2014, #5: Number of Children, August 14, 2014, #6: Vacations, August 15, 2014, #7: Church, September 24, 2014, #8: Hobbies, October 13, 2014, #9: Blenders (2nd marriages), 10-18-14, #10: Pets, October 23, 2014, #11: Family Relationships, October 30, 2014, and #12: Hot or Cold, November 1, 2014.
So what should be "deal breakers?" Primary non-negotiables are excessive alcohol drinking and/or use of any illegal drugs. Also on the list are any illegal activities, excessive debt, and hardness of heart, This is not a long list, so far, but I would add "block headedness." A person who must insist on their own way at all times would wear out even a saint in a short time.
One quality I've seen in certain friends and family members: the husband refuses to let the wife - or anyone - share in the driving. Seemingly insignificant, in comparison to the other deal breakers, this particular one might save your life! Can you add any more to this?
Lord, if we truly love some one, we tend to overlook everything that is even a slight fault. Help us see the glaring very bad qualities that we should not ignore, bad enough to eliminate that person from our consideration of marriage material!
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