Open to Love

Gradually, to all my friends and family, I've spread the joyful news of the new Love in my life!  Everyone, without exception, has told me, "I'm so happy for you!"  Most of them are happily married; some have tried to be matchmakers for me over the years.  Then there are those who are unhappily divorced and the few that have never married.

It disturbs me that a few are unequivocally CLOSED TO LOVE.  Yes, they have been very badly hurt by their husbands/wives or boyfriends/girlfriends in past years, not just by one but by several.  They say they tend to attract and choose the same type of person, usually needy, probably alcoholics.  They fear getting involved again.

They may have been hurt or disappointed by sex in their lives.  Perhaps they have been a victim of cheating.  Perhaps no one has ever really "made love" to them and only "had sex."

As a result, THEY HAVE GIVEN UP on ever finding love. What a tragic situation!  I fully understand being severely hurt.  I know how hard it is to climb up out of being crushed, bit by bit, to regain self-esteem and a happy life.  It IS do-able!  It takes time.  It also takes forgiveness of the person(s) who has hurt you.  THAT may take years, but with prayer, it is possible and good for you.  (All your hatred of the person(s) who has hurt you won't hurt them but it will kill your own pleasure in life!)

To be fully OPEN TO LOVE in your life you must be open to ALL LOVE in your life - friendships first, then possible romantic interests.  LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!  You must think you are good, valuable, hard-working, all the qualities you value.  Then you must see the good in others - there is good in everyone you meet.  Try this and see what happens.  What do you have to lose?

Lord, I've never giggled, laughed, or smiled as much as I have in the past few weeks!  Thank you for my new Love.  Help me to be worthy of this wonderful JOY!