Situation: Gayle was quite content with her twenty-year plus marriage to Sam. They had many common interests, went lots of places together, and just, in general, had fun together. That is, until Gayle stumbled on a vial of Viagra pills in Sam's clothes. Although this greatly disturbed her because she knew Sam was not using this for her, Gayle thought she would just go on as usual and see what developed.
One evening soon thereafter, at home, Sam suddenly had symptoms of a heart attack! Gayle drove him to the closest hospital emergency room (not a smart idea: call 911!! They can give care immediately!). In order to treat any condition, the doctors and nurses MUST know what medications a patient takes. Sam was asked what medications he was taking and he DID NOT MENTION THAT HE WAS TAKING VIAGRA. As a result, due to the common medications given for heart attack victims, SAM NEARLY DIED!
After he recovered, Sam hit Gayle with this mandate, "I want a divorce. I'm marrying my lover." Although she was in shock over this, Gayle readily agreed.
Lessons learned: Why did Sam wait so long to tell Gayle? Were there signs of unhappiness in Sam that Gayle could have recognized and possibly asked him if they could resolve differences? My guess is that Gayle realized that such a cheater was in no way worth having as a husband and let him go easily (yet ensured that the financial penalties for him were severe).
The fact is that no marriage beyond the honeymoon stage can compare in excitement to a new flirtation. Big deal! Marriage is, or should be, a life-time commitment, a profession of deep love in which both husband and wife intend to try their best 'till death does us part.' Therefore, beware of cheap flirtations which may lead to a cheating relationship which might destroy your marriage. If you're single, be man enough or woman enough to keep your self-respect. Reject cheap flirtations if it involves a married person. You don't want it on your conscience that you destroyed a marriage and possibly left children without a parent!
Don't forget: just because a married lover vows, "I love you, I'm going to get a divorce and marry you," that doesn't mean they are sincere (it's another line some commonly use to get a supply of free sex). Many hearts have been broken because of affairs. Also, if you're single, why sneak around with someone? You don't have to! Cheating with someone who is already 'taken' will keep you from finding that special someone who is free to marry you!
Outcome: Gayle is doing extremely well in every way, personally, financially, socially. She has enjoyed new interests and has a full life. She is not interested in dating or marrying again. I've lost track of Sam and the 'other woman.'
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