Situation: Some married men or women cheat on their spouse and try very hard to hide it. Others don't seem to care. In our small town, Bert openly cheated on Rita with a neighbor woman. Bert was seen everywhere in our small town with Sally, a married woman. Both couples had children and it appeared their spouses knew nothing of the hot affair. I tend to not believe anything anyone says that is negative. I found it hard to believe that this affair was true until I saw Bert tear down Sally's driveway on his motorcycle one day when I knew her spouse was working.
Lessons learned: Even if you have the most miserable marriage in the world, there is NO person in the world worth your self-respect. Honor your marriage vows. Vow to never cheat. Consider: those who cheat, even if they are not aware of this, cheat just for the thrill of it, not because they're attracted to you. If you really want to preserve your marriage, don't take a chance on losing it because of cheating. Do you really want the whole town talking about what a 'sleazeball' you are?
If a person wants to cheat with you, odds are he/she has cheated before. Think of it this way: if you have sex with someone, it's like you're having sex with everyone that person has ever had sex with before, also (in terms of diseases shared). I know you don't want that!
Suppose you're not married and are thinking about having an affair with a married person? Stop cold and realize: if this person cheats on his or her spouse, he/she will be likely to cheat on you! You do NOT want to be married to a former cheater!
If the cheater is 'playing' with an unmarried person, perhaps the cheater has no intention of leaving the spouse. I once knew a woman close to suicide because her married lover cried how mean and cold his wife was (a common 'line'), then his wife became pregnant with his child. Nope, not worth the risk!
Besides, adultery (do we ever hear this word anymore?) is wrong! Even if no one sees you, God does! Why have it on your conscience that you caused someone to do wrong?
Outcome: None of us in Rita's acquaintance could tell her that Bert was all over town with Sally and even at her house in the daytime. I find it hard to believe that a spouse has no suspicion whatever about a spouse cheating but I admit it is possible. Last year, I saw Bert and Rita at a party together, apparently happy and still married. Their children were grown and now had children of their own. I'll never know if Rita knew about Sally. I never heard what happened to Sally, whether her marriage survived on not. I remember reading that over 80% of marriages end in divorce after an affair is discovered. Especially if there are children involved, working hard to keep your marriage intact is very important.
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