The Pretty People

Situation:  Angelica met Simon through a mutual friend and immediately was attracted to his outstanding good looks and his friendly easy manner.  She never considered that she was pretty and was very flattered by Simon's attention.  Simon told her right from the start, "I'll never get married, I just don't want to be tied down."

At first, his attitude didn't bother Angelica.  They started living together and all was well for several years.  Simon had another problem: he really couldn't hold a regular job for much more than a month. It was a big challenge to pay the bills every month. The harder Angelica worked, it seemed the less Simon worked.

Then Angelica found out they were having a child.  It was a very difficult pregnancy.  When Angelica was about the give birth, Simon took her to the hospital, found out it was a boy and went out to another city to visit friends.  Angelica was heartbroken he never came to visit them.  Now life was doubly hard for Angelica. Paying the bills was harder with a new baby and Simon not contributing much.  Angelica and the baby had to go on welfare for a time.

Simon left her for another woman several times but Angelica always took him back.  When the child was four, Simon informed Angelica, "There's lots of jobs in Texas.  I'm going there.  I'll save money and send for you in a couple of months.

Lessons learned:  Please, please, believe people when they tell you, "I'll never get married,"  or, "I don't like church," or, "I don't get along with bosses," or whatever they say that seems irresponsible or something you'd like to change.  They have no intention of changing, in fact, they are incapable of changing.  Believe them!  The only person we can change is ourselves.  Will we waste good years of our lives waiting for someone to change?

About the "Pretty People:"  lots of time, men or women with good looks use those good looks to attract others to them.  In reality, they manipulate people, seem to prey on men or women with lesser looks, like Angelica, who feel 'special' in their presence.  Don't forget: looks fade with age; reliability, commitment, and hard work don't go awa;y!

Outcome:  After another two years of waiting for Simon to send her the money to join him, Angelica took her family's advice and cut ties with him.  She found out that he had been living with a series of younger women, the last of whom is now pregnant.