When I was a nursing student, we had to take one course in Research Methods my final semester before graduation. I loved it!!! I planned eventually to earn a Master's Degree so I could be involved in formal nursing research but it never happened. However, while working at my last hospital, I participated in a research study on my days off; this involved another course on research methods. I loved it! Even though I may not know the results of the very complicated, expensive, multi-national study on sepsis in acute kidney failure for another three years, I feel honored to have taken a very small part in what may prove to be critical new knowledge which will save lives.
Today, I started participation in a research study at our local university hospital. It involves older women, our health, and our activities. It promises to be very interesting.
In this relationship blog, I'm doing a different kind of research, on human personality. Here's my theory: in all persons, there are characteristics which predict whether or not a particular individual can form a loving, permanent relationship, compatible with another particular individual. Why do I want to do this? "This is a serious quest to spare everyone I encounter the wrenching PAIN of tragic, twisted relationships. But the bonus is learning how to find the wonderful, solid and reliable, interesting people who will truly CARE about you!" (from my first blog entry, Monday, May 20, 2013, "Why start a Relationship Blog?"
What are my qualifications? "Thirteen years ago when I was between jobs I started writing a book for my children and grandchildren. Now I want to finish it and I need your help. Over my life many friends have come and gone and I've kept the best. I've worked as a psychiatric nurse and counseled patients. I've studied many books on understanding people and gone to workshops. Then I created a new approach to sorting out compatible people from those who crush others and I want to share it. I've conversed with many folks about their failed relationships and learned what works, what doesn't, who to avoid, contacts to nourish." (from same blog entry).
What do I invite YOU to do?: 1) Offer your opinion about the various blog topics, inject experiences of your own, both sad and good. 2) Ask others you know who have suffered through painful relationships and even happy ones, to look at the blog and contribute also.
*It's easy to comment, just go to the lower 'comments' section. It is set up that comments go first directly to my e-mail inbox for approval (or not). The comments are then visible if I 'publish' them. I have never had to skip a comment for inappropriate language, etc. You are anonymous and you don't have to 'join' anything. There is no way either I or anyone else can connect to you through this blog.
*As I mention in my first blog entry, "One important guideline to start our exploring: we can't hurt anyone by giving real names or other identification when presenting our difficult relationships. We don't want real people reading this, recognizing themselves and being hurt. Since we're searching for happiness, those good feelings won't be built by squashing others!"
Lord God, I ask you tonight to give all my readers a few minutes to jot down some quick thoughts now and then in the 'comments' section. Thank you!
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