Cheating on spouses is probably nearly as old as humanity. Used to be, though, it was important to cheat 'discretely,' in other words, the cheaters would try to hide it. Not so any more in our times! This past week I've heard of several new cheaters in our local area that are quite blatantly open about it.
The cheaters, one female and one male, are not divorced, not separated, but still married. They both have children. Don't they care about how the children will feel when they find out? I think the children in these situations are cheated on, too.
The cheaters couldn't have any real feelings of 'love' for the 'other woman' or the 'other man.' Their hormones just hooked up, like animals (blunt, sorry, but if they don't care very much for their family, how can they care about anybody else, even themselves?).
Wouldn't you think that a person who has invested a number of years in his or her marriage would at least try to save it any way they could? Wouldn't they seriously try counseling, lifestyle changes, whatever it took?
We don't want to imagine the pain and chaos in the family when the cheater is found out and, it won't be but a matter of days in both the above-mentioned couples' cases. There's no way everybody won't be hurt, maybe for a long, long time.
Years ago, if either husband or wife cheated and then sought divorce, the other person would usually get full custody of the children because the cheater wouldn't be a suitable, moral person to be a good parent. These days, it's not so clear-cut.
Is it worth it to cheat? What do you get if you marry a person who cheated with you? A person that would be more likely to cheat on YOU in the future!
Years ago a woman of my acquaintance cheated on her husband, planning on marrying the fellow cheater when he divorced his wife. The woman divorced her husband and let him have their children. The cheater guy ended up changing his mind and didn't divorce his wife. So then the cheating woman had no husband, no children, no family, no house, no job, and no community respect. NOT a good life!
Given the climate of acceptability of cheating on all media and by most of the movie stars, sports heroes, even many of the politicians, it's no wonder a lot of folks get caught up in the 'mud' of the social climate and take cheating lightly. Maybe one of these days, we'll regain our senses and wait till a marriage is truly ended before we even consider dating another person. It's not over before it's over!
Lord in heaven, we ask You to bless our married couples and always keep their love alive! Help them all be very good examples for their precious children.
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