Smashing the Cycle

The three women from three generations sat, talking.  They were Patsy, the mother of Brittany, and Mildred, the grandmother.  All were single.  Recently or long ago, the trio had left abusive men.  Mother and grandmother were very much wanting Brittany to learn from their own and her own mistakes and not enter into another abusive situation.

Suddenly, Patsy had an insight:  "You know, we are in a cycle here.  We've all been with guys who were nasty.  Sometimes I think it's a wonder we all lived through it!  We have got to stop our pattern of going from one creep to another.  Why are we attracted to jerks who hurt us?  I don't ever want to be with a man again, after the last one.

Mildred interjected, "Now, Patsy, there are plenty of nice guys out there.  You just have to be patient.  You always go for the sparkly, shiny, smooth-talking ones.  Why don't you try for a nice, ordinary guy?"

Patsy jumped in with, "Fine.  But I don't think they're attracted to me."

Brittany was listening quite intensely.

Mildred continued, "For one thing, and this is not just you, young women these days just jump into bed too easily these days.  If your goal is marriage and family and children, an ordinary wonderful life, you have to go for the stable, hard-working but not work-aholic guys.  You don't have to go for guys that have a body like Superman!  And, the most important thing, you have to make a commitment to YOURSELF to not have sex before you are married."

Patsy was considering, "Of course, you're right.  Heads go bald, bellies hang over, it really doesn't matter if someone is healthy.  A Superman-type guy is probably full of himself!"

"I think you ladies are on the right track", Mildred offered.  "You go to church.  Now go to a lot of their activities, meet people, lots of people.  Get to be friends with a lot of people!    One of those guys will notice you - you're both very pretty when you want to be!  You MUST be friends first!  Then you'll know a guy wants you for the right reasons, not just for sex.  No one wants to be used and thrown away after the newness wears off."

"I meet a lot of new guys at work all the time.  I guess I'm too busy to notice any of them," mused Patsy.

Brittany chipped in, "I don't see hardly any guys at work.  Maybe it's time to change departments!"

Mildred finished, "You girls are definitely on the right track.  I think we've all smashed the abuse cycle to bits!"

Lord, your plans are always the best!  Help us stay morally right, yes, PURE, at all times.  Help us associate with and form wholesome friendships.  And, when the time is right, help us find good mates!