It should be no surprise to anyone that men and women are different - in nearly every way! That's good - very good! We are complementary, we complete each other. Men have strengths, gifts, talents, desires, as do women; what one lacks, the other possesses.
Men are more task-oriented; women are more concerned with the overall situation of family interaction and well-being. Men go to particular stores to buy particular items; women go 'shopping' to determine if an item they have in mind is the best one, the cheapest and/or most durable, and how will it fit in with all the other 'things' they possess. Women shop sometimes just to see what is new, unique, and beautiful. Women will shop just to have 'fun' with friends, children, or other family. When men shop, they zero in on what they need; when women shop, they scan many stores, many products.
Although you can find gems of men (extremely rare) that will accompany a woman on her leisurely shopping trips, they will enjoy her companionship more than the shopping; that's perfectly fine and wonderful. If you are married to a man like that, please count your blessings! Most men rebel at a womanly shopping trip, especially if it involves clothing shopping. Of course, we must try on clothes - lots of them - to see if they fit and how they look. And we can't be rushed in making our decisions!
The bottom line is, for much of women's shopping, we need to either go by ourselves or with a woman we know will be a fair critic, a friend, and fun. How patient could a woman be to go with a man who is looking for just the right tool or, worse than that, for anything having to do with a car?
So, women, if your man would rather not go shopping with you, indeed, if he refuses to go shopping with you, so what? Get a grip, don't torture him, don't be nasty and spiteful, just go yourself! Men, give us women all the time we need, please!
Actually, this is probably less negotiating and more facing reality!
Lord in heaven, thank you for making men and women different in most every way. Help us use those differences to make a strong, unbreakable union of hearts!
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