If you're a reader of this blog, you know my opinions on those who cheat on their wives and husbands: they are low-lifes, more poisonous than the largest scorpions or most poisonous snake. The harm from cheaters, these "lesions" on the landscape of humanity seems to be endless. Recently I found out about a friend of mine from long ago who has greatly suffered due to the secret infidelity of her husband. She was pregnant at the time, nearly lost their baby, and needed a hysterectomy as the result of the STD she didn't know she had been infected with by her idiot husband.
When writing on a topic, I sometimes return to what I've previously written so I don't duplicate material, especially since this one is #504, according to my records. Within the first week of starting the blog, the first "Cheaters" was offered, "Cheaters, Number One," 7/2/13. This opined that 1) if you have sex with a person, in terms of diseases, you are having sex with everyone that person has ever had sex with and 2) if a person will cheat on his or her spouse, they will cheat on YOU.
"Cheaters, Number Two," the next day, 7/3/13, told of a very good friend of mine's experience at the emergency room with her husband: he almost died because he withheld information that he was taking Viagra to help him with his cheating affair. One of the lessons learned: by any measure, adultery is not worth any thrill you may have.
"The See-Saws: Cheaters #3," was offered 9/22/13. Another friend of mine, single, was approached by a married man several times and rejected by her. The lessons were 1) know the marital status of a person before you date them, and don't believe a married person who tells you how horrible their marriage is, another "line" to get you to have sex with them, and 2) serial marry-cheat-divorce-marry-cheat-divorce people divorce sooner every time; beware and leave them in their misery.
"The Tale of Two Cheating Women (Cheaters, #4)," came out soon thereafter, 9/4/13. Both women were single, cheating with married men. The first cheating woman was suicidal after finding out her lover's wife was pregnant. This woman subsequently married. The second cheating woman is still cheating with the same married man. Not mentioned in the blog entry: at one time the second cheating woman got pregnant by this man who had a number of children already with his wife. He convinced her to get an abortion. Lessons learned included: don't cross the line and engage in an adulterous relationship, you don't want it on your conscience that you have taken away time and resources from your married lover's family.
Next came "It Takes Two to Cheat But . . .," 9/9/13, Cheaters #5. If one person of a potential cheating temptation says, "No!" the cheating event will not happen. You WILL regret cheating; you don't want to know that YOU caused your marriage to break up. You will NEVER regret staying faithful to your spouse. Keep your vows!
"Cheaters #6: Waves," 5/7/14, explored "repercussions" from cheating: "extreme suffering on the part of the victims. . . Most (cheaters) were forgiven, although it took some nearly a lifetime to come to this forgiveness. It shows that a cheating episode has 'waves' of pain which will hurt everyone in the family, friends, and community."
On 9/8/14, the blog topic was "Cheaters, #7: Nuclear Fallout." This involved one of a long-term co-habiting relationship blatantly cheating. He risked losing the woman he loved and then lost the woman he loved.
So then, this is blog #8 on the topic, "Cheaters." If I had known the circumstances surrounding this family prior to "Cheaters, #7," I would have never called it "Nuclear Fallout." The consequences of Cheaters #8 is far more tragic and could have been DEADLY! I want to weep whenever I think of this family!
Situation: Georgia and Aaron were expecting their second child. Georgia thought they were very happily married. Both adored their first child and were looking forward to the new baby. Georgia was getting excellent prenatal care. Towards the end of her pregnancy, Georgia started feeling sick. Her doctor discovered that Georgia had several STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). In addition to being very sick, Georgia was in extreme emotional SHOCK. She knew she never, in her life, had sex with anyone except Aaron. It was hard to believe that Aaron cheated on her. How could he be so evil and irresponsible! She didn't even want to know who was the skanky woman!
Georgia had to be hospitalized for several days. The infections in her were abated but the consequences to her baby were unknown. Several days later, Georgia had to have a Caesarian section to deliver the baby, due to the nature of one of the viruses with which Aaron had infected her. The baby was fortunate and had not been infected. Yet Georgia had to have a hysterectomy due to her infections.
Lessons learned: Not everyone knows they're infected with an STD if they have sex with more than one person. Of those infected persons, not all will tell their sex partners about their infection. The ONLY way to avoid STDs is to be monogamous! These days, you may not only contract one STD, you probably will catch several, if you cheat around. Giving an infection to your husband or wife is disastrously evil. Passing an infection on to your unborn child is totally selfish and irresponsible!
Outcome: I consider Georgia a living saint. Georgia forgave Aaron of his infidelity, risking death to their unborn child, and causing her illness resulting in surgery and infertility. Aaron seems to have 'sobered up' and stopped having affairs. They are still married and appear to be a happy family.
The reason I mention this in this "relationship" blog is to present the reality of life to my children, grandchildren and readers. Be careful, know what you're doing in your relationships. I wish for you the BEST life has to offer!
Now: WHAT can we who oppose cheating relationships do to stop the culture of cheating in our beloved America? We can never condone such liasons! We have to get rid of the "boys will be boys" mentality. It is never right for anyone to cheat! We have to vote for wholesome morality in our TV programs and movies. We can refuse to watch sit-coms that accept cheating as normal. We can refuse to buy products that sponsor immoral TV programs and movies! If we patronize wholesome entertainment, we will do our part to promote wholesome relationships. Don't forget how important ONE PERSON is!! Together, we are POWERFUL!!!
Dear Lord, thank you for giving me whatever energy, insights, and love for writing I have in these pages. Help me to present everything I can to educate and to inspire TRUE LOVE in all!
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