My Love Won't Wait!

Remember the old popular Elvis song, "It's Now or Never, My Love Won't Wait"?  A recent acquaintance of mine, Rosara, is having an extremely difficult time forgiving herself these days.  She is a foreign-born, new American resident.  It is very important in her country that women 'save themselves (their virginity) for marriage.'

Rosara is beautiful, by any measure, and had plenty of young men interested in dating her.  She was shy but accepted dates from a man she trusted, Rick.  After a few months, Rick convinced Rosara that he loved her and wanted to marry her and it was OK to have sex.  Rosara believed him.  Then Rick dumped her!

She was and is thoroughly devastated. "How could he lie so?  How could he leave me, knowing I love him?  Why was I so stupid?"  She is tortured by these questions.  Now she feels worthless, 'used,' and vows she can never get married now that she's ruined.

Rosara has cried and cried, has lost weight, and has problems even going to work.  Friends suggest counseling to help her.  She may try this, she says.  I hope she does go through with it and regains a measure of her former happiness.

"My love won't wait" and "I'm going to marry you" are just two of the many phony 'lines' guys use (and some women, too, I'm sure) to get sex.  Men who use women for their own pleasure can't be called enough evil names: jerks, creeps, etc.  Women later find out what fools they were to believe their lies.  (And a few men, too, of course.)

True love will wait for marriage to have sex.  Rosara's culture is wise; I wish our American culture was that wise!  It certainly would prevent a lot of heartbreaks!  True love wants the best for the beloved.  An untimely pregnancy or S.T.D. is not 'the best.'  Pass this discussion on to the young people you know.  Maybe you will save someone's self-respect.

Dear Lord, You are the One who made all the rules for marriage and sex.  We can break them or ignore them but we will always suffer and cause suffering.  When will we learn?  Help us spread the joy of waiting for marriage and the joys of families!