Fishers, #1: Casting a Wide Net

Situation: Years ago I knew Henry, a 40-ish, good-looking man who knew he was good-looking. It's funny how if people think a lot of their looks, it really diminishes them.  Anyway, Henry kissed all women, ON THE LIPS, instead of just saying, "Hi, how are you doing?", the way the rest of us would.  Henry was flirty, but he wasn't stupid; he never bothered with teenagers.  Henry did his kissing even in front of his wife, who pretended not to notice.  He never kissed her, now that I'm thinking about this.

We all knew Henry was just full of himself and didn't mean anything serious, but Marian was a bit naive and fell in love with Henry.  This greatly pleased Henry.  But this didn't slow down Henry's indiscriminate kissing one bit.  Marian didn't mind as long as Henry kissed her and he certainly did - at every opportunity.  Marian thought Henry was in love with her but since she was also married, she fought it.  Henry never asked her to cheat with him and Marian probably wouldn't have done so.  Working together closely was enough for both of them.

Several years passed and Henry's wife noticed that Henry might actually be in love with Marian.  Even though she had another man 'on the side,' she couldn't stand the thought that Henry might be cheating.  She must have confronted Henry because he figured out how NOT to work directly with Marian, and told her he could hardly see her anymore.

This devastated Marian!  She thought her world had ended.  It was very hard for her to recover, but it didn't take her long.  In time, in recalling Henry's behavior, she told me, "Looking back, I don't think he ever loved me at all.  Henry was just using me to get back at his wife!"

Lessons learned:  They used to call men who seemed to flirt with everyone, "skirt chasers."  And the women who did this were said to chase "anything that wore pants."  Now that the role identities of male and female are 'blurred,' this is harder to imagine, but you get the idea. Normal people keep their distance from these "self-worshippers!"

Outcome:  All parties involved recovered.  But think of the horrible example Henry's behavior was for any young person who may have noticed!  Henry ended up getting transferred and no one really missed him.

Our take-away:  God gives us hormones, so eventually we will co-create with him new people, babies.  We need to follow God's rules on showing our attraction to another.  Within marriage, the rule is: "only with each other."  Those unmarried would show sense and good morality to stay away from another who is married. And GOD says, the unmarried should not act like they're married and they should not act like alley-cats and (insert your own words here, I can't think of anything else but 'shack up').  You never heard God say this?  Read His Book.