Falling asleep only when the TV is on is the reality of life for many folks these days. This is the way they have lived for years, either their parents or they have trained themselves and it would be very hard to change. Some people must have a light on in their room to fall asleep. Others must have complete darkness. Many have a 'noise box' that imitates the ocean or something soothing to help them fall asleep. Far too many use chemical means, e.g., a sleeping pill, to fall asleep.
All this is fine if you live alone but what if you're planning on getting married? "Sleep Practices" is another one of those conversations you would be wise to have before the wedding and honeymoon. Is trying to figure out if you are compatible in this area and others a valid reason to 'live together' - cohabit - (the old folks would call it 'shacking up' or 'playing house')? NO, NEVER!! If love is there, a couple can work out the details! (In the book on relationships I'm currently working on, one chapter is titled, "10,000 Reasons to Save Sex For Marriage.")
My good friend, Juliette, needs perfect quiet to fall asleep. Her husband must have the TV on to fall asleep. How did they negotiate this? Juliette dearly loves him; she relaxes in bed till her husband falls asleep. Then she gets up and turns off the TV. This has worked out well. In other areas, he has done what she has needed.
Some who prefer darkness wear 'sleep masks' to block out their spouses' need for some light. In other couples' life, there's the "I need the window open at all times" vs. "I will catch cold if it's open." There are other differences. It's amazing how, in former times, many people slept in the same bed; they were happy to not be on the floor. If they did it, couples now can work it out!
Lord, we need rest and sleep to refresh ourselves for the day's work ahead. Help us develop wisdom and kindness when we need to sleep with another for both our benefits. We want to always share our love, the love we have received from you!
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