Situation: When my deceased brother, Steve, was a young college student in the mid-'60s, he dated a number of women. He liked one enough to ask her to marry him. We in the family thought she was rather dull and unfriendly but we were prepared to like her because she was his choice.
Her attitude towards Steve changed dramatically after Steve presented her with the engagement ring. She got a little 'life' in her and started telling Steve what to do. After a couple of months, Steve found himself driving her family everywhere. "Oh, Steve, dear, Mom needs to go - - -. Would you mind driving her." "Oh, Steve, dear, my brother needs to go - - -. Would you mind driving him?" Steve hardly had time to do homework and work at his part-time job at J.C. Penneys.
Well, Steve tired of this very quickly. There may have been other issues. Steve ended the engagement and we all breathed a sigh of relief.
Lessons learned: Steve was wise to not jump into marriage too quickly. The young lady obviously felt she 'owned' Steve and he didn't want to be owned.
It's a good practice to consult God when you're contemplating a new marriage, new job, any new life change. God loves us and will help us see the reality of our situations, if only we ask!
Outcome: After several years, Steve found a delightful young woman, Pam, and they were married many years.
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