What to Reveal

Situation:  Bruce heard from his friend, Jess, that Fanny was a real 'hottie' in bed.  When Jess and Fanny broke up, Bruce thought he'd take over where Jess left off.  He managed to 'bump into' Fanny in the cafeteria where she worked.  He did not tell Fanny that he knew her former boyfriend, Jess.  Fanny liked Bruce right from the start and they started dating.  Within weeks, Fanny invited him to her apartment to watch a movie on TV.  They ended up in bed.

Bruce was rather curious about how many boyfriends Fanny had in her past.  He point-blank asked Fanny, "Well, Fanny, tell me about the other guys in your life.  Who did you sleep with?"  Fanny was in shock!  She retorted with, "What difference does it make?  I thought you loved me." Bruce went on, "I just want to know.  I have a right to know."  Fanny couldn't believe what he was saying and told Bruce, "I think that is very private.  Just forget it."

Bruce got a bit angry and insisted.  He laughed, "Fanny, I know you at least slept with my old pal, Jess.  He said you were quite a hot chick in bed.  You can't deny that, can you?"  Fanny didn't think it was the slightest bit funny; she felt used.  She was used.

Lessons learned:  No one has any right to know about any past 'sins' or sexual encounters.  Yet, like it or not, a woman who engages in casual sex with multiple partners gathers a 'bad' reputation for being 'easy.'  For centuries, these women used to be called 'whores.'  They'd like to call themselves 'liberated.'  Men have somehow not been looked down on as severely.  Is this a double standard?  Sure.  But it is reality.  Women who are 'loose' or 'easy' lose much more than a good reputation.  They lose their self-respect, and diminish their hopes of finding a gentleman who cares about them for who they are.

Is there anything in the past that should be revealed to one's prospective marriage partner?  Only past children, past marriages, past criminal activity, perhaps past hospitalization for mental illness, in my opinion.  Have I missed anything important?

Outcome:  Fanny got dressed, told Bruce he'd better leave as soon as possible.  Did she learn from this disaster?  Sure!  This woman decided to totally be free of men forever.  In a few months, she changed her mind, met a really nice man.  They decided to save themselves for marriage and actually got married. How nice to have a happy ending!

Please note: today, November 11, is Veterans' Day.  Please pray to God in Thanksgiving for all the men and women who have served in our United States Military throughout the years and kept our country free!  Some have given their health, some have given their lives.  Freedom is not free!  Since my own nephew, Justin, was killed in Afghanistan in 2008 (in the Irish Regiment of the British Royal Army, after having served 6 years in the United States Navy), our family knows very, very well the price of freedom.

You may like to check out this blog, Tuesday, August 13, 2013, "Military Families: A Big Challenge, Many Rewards."  May God continue to 'shine his grace on America, the Beautiful!'