A precious, dear, long-time friend of mine has passed by a golden opportunity for love! Trudy has been a widow for a number of years. After Andrew, a friend of both Trudy and her husband, went through a long illness and subsequent death of his wife, he was a widower. A year passed. He asked Trudy to lunch one day. From that time on, Trudy and Andrew dated and thoroughly enjoyed each other's company. They came to deeply care for each other.
One day, Andrew told Trudy the words many women long to hear, "I love you." This rather shocked Trudy. When she told me, at first, she couldn't speak the words. She said, "He said the "L" word." I don't know why she was surprised: wouldn't this be expected?
Trudy thought carefully about this for a matter of weeks. Andrew wasn't pressuring her for marriage but Trudy definitely saw this on the horizon. Finally she made her decision. "Yes, I do love Andrew as he loves me. He's the best kind of guy there is. But I won't give up my pension to marry Andrew."
Andrew was extremely disappointed when Trudy relayed to him her decision to never marry again. They don't date anymore but they remain friendly when they have a chance meeting in the neighborhood.
As her friend, I support Trudy in her decision. She didn't ask me what I thought and I won't volunteer it to her. But I feel certain I wouldn't have made the same decision. Andrew was exactly what Trudy knew him to be, the best kind of guy there is, a gentleman, responsible, hard-working even though himself also retired, healthy, religious, and even good-looking! I would have chosen love over money!
What about you?
Oh, Lord, the opportunities for genuine love between a woman and a man who are both free to pursue this love in marriage, if they choose, are so rare! Help us make loving decisions if we are so blessed!
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