Recently, this blog explored, "How do I know I'm in love?" One quality, EXCLUSIVITY, was examined. The second most important quality of true love is MUTUALITY. This is by far the 'trickiest' quality! A one-sided love is NOT true love! It may be attraction, yearning, admiration, but it can't be true love. True love is two people in love with each other at the same time.
A person truly in love always wants the very best in everything for the beloved. This automatically excludes relationships where both parties are using each other for sexual satisfaction without benefit of commitment. To be sure, a close physical relationship is part of true love, after a mutual, life-long commitment.
This last statement may be totally foreign to anyone who is a 100%, bona fide product of 21st century American culture. Our media actively and aggressively promotes the credo that sex is your right, no matter what your age, no matter what your situation, no matter who or what you would like to engage in sex with. What matters to the culture now is a person being satisfied sexually as much as possible.
If you haven't figured it out by now, a love based only on sex is destined for boredom and eventual failure. Put simply, it is selfishness! Don't settle for this. Eventually, your relationship will taste like ashes in your mouth!
You deserve more! Save your sex for marriage. You will never regret doing so! As a nurse, a mother, and a grandmother, I have seen the fall-out from relationships whose participants jump into sex very quickly, very casually.
In an exclusive, mutual relationship, both are free to explore the better qualities of each other. This will be very exciting!
Lord, help us truly want the best for all our friends! If one of our friendships turns into exclusive and mutual love, we thank you for the blessing!
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