Needs?

This is not a situation involving particular people, it is an observation and an opinion.

Have you heard that those outside the United States judge us by our television programs?  How else can they find out about that land far away?  And foreigners think we are totally 100% decadent, hedonistic, that men and women here have sex with whom they please without any thought of morality - of what is 'right' and what is 'wrong'.

Most of our 'liberal' media would like it that way and do their best to promote vulgarity, promiscuity, and pornography.  They feel that no one is able to control their sexual urges, that they must be satisfied.  The only 'sin' in America is a newborn baby.  How inconvenient!  Babies really cramp the style of our Playboys and Playgirls.  As a result, we are desperate to prevent pregnancies and, oh, well, if 'mistakes' result in a pregnancy, kill the result.

What is almost even more disturbing to me is the statement I've heard lately from several young, fairly educated young women, "I have needs.  I NEED SEX."  Mind you, some of the females (I can not call them 'ladies') are unmarried but some of them are married.  The married ones are cheating on their husbands!  (I am happy that I am still shocked about this!)

About 'needs': to live, we need only to breathe.  We will last approximately a month without food and perhaps a week without water.  We only NEED air to breathe.  'Needing sex?'  No way!  Think of all the couples separated when one has to go on a trip, perhaps for months.  Think of couples with one person too sickly for sex. Think of a woman close to and after childbirth: she needs to heal. Think of religious people who feel sex outside of marriage is wrong and they commit to this.

How did we deteriorate into this attitude of 'needing' sex?  I blame the Far-Out, Bra-Burning, Radical Part of the Women Libbers.  Back in the 60's, they demanded that women be given the same rights as men.  They needed to be more selective!  Why didn't they imitate the best of men?  Instead, they imitated the Playboys who flit from woman to woman, never caring about love, just sex.  They wanted 'free' sex.  Sex was then put into the same category as food: now people had 'appetites' for sex - which, of course, then must be satisfied.

Recently I read "The 30-day love detox: cleanse yourself of bad boys, cheaters, and men who won't commit - and find a real relationship" by Dr. Wendy Walsh.  She exposes what women really want, a man who will love them for the long-term and advises that 'serial' affairs and 'serial cohabiting' virtually kills a woman's chances of ever getting this. 

The wonder in all this is that the young women feel free to tell me how they feel, knowing all the while how much I am opposed.  We still respect each other, somehow.

However, I have hope, real hope.  Recently the newspaper reported a study of college students, "College Hookup Culture Exposed: there's no more sex now than 20, 30 years ago." (Lexington Herald-Leader, 8-14-13)  The conclusion, "I think there's always that preconception that 'Oh, maybe I'm the only one who's not sexually active," said Laurie Morgan. "When you see the actual data, it's enlightening for all."

What I vow to do is what a close friend does.  If she sees an objectionable commercial, she writes to the TV station and complains.  I stopped eating Yoplait yogurt years ago when I read they donate to groups promoting baby-killing.  Now I need to be a little bit more pro-active!  What about you?