The Daddy Trap #2

Situation:  Belinda was a waitress and Marty was a journeyman HVAC employee.  She was 18 and he was 19 at the time.  They dated for several months when Belinda informed Marty that they were expecting a child.   Marty was thrilled!  The only family he had was his aunt with whom he was living.  Marty and Belinda moved into a small apartment.  Marty dearly loved Belinda but she seemed very selfish and lazy.  In time the baby was born but all was not well.

Belinda decided she didn't really like Marty all that well and moved into her own apartment.  She expected Marty to pay for the apartment and child support.  Marty paid what he could but it didn't satisfy Belinda.  She took him to court and was awarded all of his pay except $75 per month.  Marty moved back in with his aunt.

For several months, this seemed to work but Belinda didn't want Marty and his aunt to have the baby very often. Then Marty lost his job.  Belinda went on welfare; she had quit work right before the baby was born.  She was not happy.  It was even harder for Marty to see his child, who he loved more than anyone.  Marty's aunt started noticing that the baby had a bad diaper rash every time they kept him and he seemed to be losing weight.  The next time they had the baby, she took him to a physician.

Marty told Belinda that he wanted to keep the baby all the time.  That's when Belinda 'lost it!'   She said that he would never again see the baby.  Marty's aunt paid lawyer's fees to try to get Marty custody of the baby. Even though Marty and his aunt knew that Belinda was severely neglecting the baby, Marty didn't get custody.

Lessons learned:  For the sake of any child that may result, please, please, do not have sex with anyone you wouldn't want to be the mother or father of your child!!  There are many 'lines' many women or men use to get sex, perhaps, with 'hoping to get pregnant' in mind: 1) "I'm a diabetic, I can't get you pregnant,"  2)  "I'm nervous, I can't get you pregnant," 3) "I take the pill," and 4) Please tell the rest of us of any YOU have heard about.

It is even better for a child to be born with the parents married to each other.  Research shows that children with two parents do far better in school.  Don't you want that for YOUR child?

Outcome:  I can't begin to tell you about the misery that Marty and his aunt went through, worrying about the baby!  Several years ago, Marty's aunt passed away and I lost track of Marty, his aunt, Belinda and the baby.