Situation: April came from a small country town. All her relatives, especially her mother, were shocked when she announced, "I've joined the Navy and I'm leaving in two weeks." April had worked as a clerk for two years after high school and she just wanted " to see the world."
April met Ray when they were both stationed on the west coast in California. They were instantly attracted, dated, and married. Life in this last year of their enlistment was good, still living in California.
Now they had decisions to make: where will we live? Ray loved the megapolis of Los Angeles. He was a lawyer and would have unlimited opportunity there. April yearned for the quiet country life in her hometown.
Lessons learned: Before committing to life with another person, decide if you are flexible enough to live anywhere or would rather settle in one place permanently. There's no right or wrong here. Where do you feel comfortable? Have you grown up in big cities? Have you grown up in the country? Do you yearn to experience foreign countries? I had a friend once who relayed, "After about two years, I feel I have used up a town."
What about hot places versus cold climates? Some folks don't care about this, others do.
Outcome: Ray knew he could never live in a place where the population of the entire county was less than 20,000. Now that she had "seen the world," April knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life in a place where everybody knew everybody else. They divorced and moved on. April married again, three years later.
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