Background: For twenty years, I've worked in hospitals, so I know the personal joys and problems of all professionals involved. Let's take physicians and medical students. What I'll offer used to apply only to males, but now the female doctors and med students are both 'assailed,' meaning bothered by totally insincere offers.
Situation: When Jake was a medical student, he was very surprised that many of the young nurses openly and frequently flirted with him. Although a good-looking man by anyone's standards, Jake had never experienced such attention. Jake had an attractive girlfriend whom he loved dearly and had been dating before he had even applied to medical school.
Then Jake noticed that all of the medical students received this same attention, even the ones who were not only plain-looking but even fat and ugly. That led him to realize: they are not interested in us as persons, they're just looking for dollars, or the dollars they think we'll be earning some day. That sobering thought gave him a new perspective on all the flirting and he became immune to it. When the opportunistic ladies were aware of his "I'm not interested" attitude, they left him alone.
Lessons learned: Depending on your profession, beware of those who see you as a paycheck. This applies not only to doctors, pharmacists, horse farm owners, etc., it could apply to anyone. Yes, you could get one of these attractive 'trophy' wives or husbands. Know that they would be totally in love with themselves and your earnings, NOT YOU. They would delight in spending your money, and getting you in debt.
The behavior of some of these 'hunters' is blatant and disgusting. One young nurse was determined to catch a particular doctor. She started never wearing underwear. Then she found out he liked horses, bought herself some cowboy boots and started wearing them to work! It was ludicrous, but she succeeded. Another really pretty young nurse was determined to marry a 'rich' doctor. Her makeup and lovely long blond (fake) hair was always perfect no matter what happened. One look at her, or one conversation with her, from all of us that didn't matter to her, revealed that she had a heart of stone. But she, also, succeeded in getting her 'catch,' the Doctor.
Once I met two very attractive young ladies at a party. They were dating medical students. One of them seemed really kind and decent, the other one was looking to marry a doctor and decorate a new house forever. The kind lady married her man and enjoyed a good family life. The other one was rejected but found another medical student to date. They eventually married. She went so wild spending money that she encouraged him to get a second job moonlighting at an E.R. because he could earn $1,000 a shift. Even that was not enough and she ended up getting a job herself. Eventually, he volunteered to join the military and go to a war zone.
One bright morning on my hospital unit, a young housekeeping employee strolled in and announced to us nurses, "Ah'm lookin' for a sugar momma!" We thought it was so funny!
Beware, if you are one of the 'hunted' ones!
Outcome: Jake married his lovely young lady and they enjoy an enviable loving relationship.
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