Situation: Janine is a forty-ish, incredibly successful professional woman. Some years ago, she lived with Levi for nearly ten years. She yearned for marriage and children, but Levi had no intention of either marrying or having children. Finally, even though she dearly loved him, Janine accepted reality and ended their relationship.
Then, into her thirties, Janine felt pressure to have a child before her fertility was too low. She met Jason, felt like they were fairly compatible and married him. Soon thereafter, a lovely baby was born.
Years passed and Janine became very bored with Jason. She stays with him, for now, for the sake of the child.
Lessons learned: Nowadays, women and men marry in their late twenties, on average. Many women pursue careers and put off having children until even their forties. Biology says that approximately after age 25, female fertility starts declining.
Our culture started demeaning and degrading 'motherhood' as a full-time career with Betty Friedan's book, The Feminine Mystique, in the '60's. The reality is that the children grow up, leave home, then a woman is left with perhaps thirty or forty years to continue that career or get a new ones. Do we have our priorities backwards? Should we have our children first, then skyrocket our career, if that's what we want? I may be an opinion of one on this. I just know it's worked out extremely well for me to have children first, career second.
Outcome: Weeks after Janine left him, Levi married a new woman! It hurt Janine but she got over it soon.
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