Situation: Emma was a very sensitive young woman and seemed to cry at every disappointment. Her husband, Galen, couldn't understand her at all. When things went wrong, he just tried to deal with it, scolded Emma for being such a baby and got on with his life. At times, when small things went wrong, such as a sick child preventing them from going out like they were planning, Emma shed a few tears, even then. When a major disappointment happened once, like the time Galen lost his job, Emma cried off and on for days. Galen also scolded her, mocked her, and was angry with her for days.
Lessons to be learned: Disappointments and occasional tragedies are bound to happen. There are many ways to deal with them: some are angry, some are hurt and tearful, some will pout, and some may scold or attack. Then others may just be silent and hope the problem will go away. We would do well to pay attention to how we deal with this and also to how those with whom we hope to have a serious relationship deal with them. If we date someone long enough, this will be apparent. We don't want to live with anyone who scolds, mocks and/or gets angry with us.
Outcome: Emma was just worn out with crying and decided to get counseling. After several months of insights, she quit crying with every hurt. She let Galen know that she didn't appreciate being treated with 'put-downs.' Things remain much better between them.
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