Situation: Two men I know, one a good friend, and one an acquaintance, are married to lovely wives. Jacob works at a printing plant. He wanted to take his wife out to different places, to the movies, dancing, and on trips. She refused. It was not a question of money. She just said she was a 'homebody,' and liked to stay home. Jacob stayed at home, too.
Aaron was a computer specialist. He loved people and wanted to go to different church functions, both on committees and to social functions. His wife refused. She told him, "That's your 'thing'. Go. I'll stay home with the children." Again, it was not a question of money. So Aaron went by himself.
Lessons learned: Many, many women would like to go somewhere, anywhere, with their husbands. Going out together creates bonds. Both Jacob and Aaron resented their wives for not going out with them, as they did when they were dating. It is truly dishonest to 'change' radically after you get married!
Outcome: Jacob's wife got cancer, in an advanced stage when she found out. She died less than a year later. Jacob was heartbroken. However, in several years, Jacob dated other women and found a gem who went dancing with him - a lot. I was so happy for Jacob!
Aaron still goes to many church functions by himself. Why wouldn't his wife go to just a few events to make him happy?
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