Unmatched Couples

Situation:  Nancy is an ordinary, plain, small-town girl from Kentucky.  She has been married to a foreign man for three years.  She is considerably taller than he is, heavier, with obviously bleached, white-blond hair.  The Man is fairly good-looking but openly treats her like dirt. She was one of my patients, from time-to-time, in the hospital.

Nancy shared, when the Man was not present, that he was taking all her money, used her car, was hardly ever at home, and wouldn't even help her when she was sick.  She sadly relayed, "I just can't seem to make him love me."

Lessons learned:  Except for the occasional really tall skinny man and the really short, plump woman, do you ever see older, unmatched couples?  Sometimes you'll see a homely rich man married to a drop-dead-gorgeous woman but, by and large, couples who stay together for the long term tend to resemble each other in appearance and outlook.  Opposites may attract but couples with many common interests will find life easier.

There are many young couples such as Nancy and The Man in Kentucky.  It is obvious that many foreign men will charm plain women who wouldn't attract a guy in their small town with a limited number of bachelors.  I think these guys will select a vulnerable woman so they can remain in the good ole' United States permanently.  It is all too obvious.

I've seen no statistics regarding this but I've noticed that foreign women are highly educated and frequently marry those from their own country.

Now do you really want to be married to someone that uses you, for any reason?  Consider carefully, anyone who wants to rush you into marriage!

Outcome:  I'll never see Nancy since I've retired so I'll never know what happened to her.  I wonder how long a marriage has to last for a foreign person to be able to stay in the U.S. permanently.  Does anyone know?